Yea, I said it.
I have nothing to prove.
I was that girl— The girl that was overly concerned with what everyone thought about me. I had to be right. It was important that I made sense to you. It was also important that you understood me and was on my side. I had to have the last word. In a perfect world, that’s ideal. This ain’t a perfect world.
A few years ago, I learned, everyone I love will not have the emotional capacity to reciprocate. I began holding space for grief + gratitude. Grieve what was or what I wanted and be grateful for what is. This lesson was a game changer. It changed the way that I began showing up in my relationships.
It led me to a deeper place of understanding and self-love. I learned that I AM enough! Everybody won’t be your people — and everybody aren’t my people either!
Three things that helped me realized that I have nothing to prove are:
Mindset - I had to make sure my mind was right. A clear mind is a clear heart.
Intention - Before doing anything I began checking my “why” for doing it.
Clarity - I began getting clear on things before I started doing or saying them.
Today I can confidently say, “I AM enough because I have nothing to prove.”